A Nuisance in My Family Compound

 Some people think that marriage is a lottery

 ~ Oxford Advanced Learner's Dictionary entry on Lottery

Soiled diapers, ice cream cans, food packages, kitchen waste, Pizza Jungle boxes all from the rich and irrational

 I live with people at Umuara, Osisioma, Abia State of Nigeria, where some people think that marriage is a lottery or the jackpot. They manifest their mental illness in many ways. But recently and even before then, somebody has been making a nuisance of herself in my family compound by littering refuse all over the place and obstructing pedestrian movement with her laundry. This woman joined my family in 2017 after they went to perform marriage rites in her alleged native compound in Mbaise, Imo State of Nigeria. I wasn't in attendance because I had adjudged my family desperate in bringing a troublemaker into my life as they also did in 2014 in Ebonyi State of Nigeria. In addition, I had suffered an assault from her husband, an elder brother, a few days before the rites owing to accusations from me of the marriage being arranged/aided by troublemakers. There were all sorts of staged nuisance activities leading to the marriage in 2017. They were pagan and annoying, like missing personal belonging like books, jewellery and clothes, some lost till date. I made entry of those items on my twitter handle @njoku_ije in 2017. Who pays for pagan value? I opposed the unions because they, my family, didn't do any investigations into the women's lives and past. They were all members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, so they thought it unnecessary both times. Were they marriages or coronations?

This was left in my compound by a careless mother.

 I have had violent confrontations with members of my family prior and since Irene's coming because of things like what I'm about to share here, how long she manipulated them before joining them I knew not. A few weeks after her marriage she and the other woman/wife, Nnenna allegedly stripped my mother's house-girl, Ogechi from Enugu State, naked in January, 2018. That year, Irene once put her hand in her own house-girl's underpants, while searching for a missing sweet/candy. Afterwards and another day, she mandated the same housegirl of hers, one Juliet (surname withheld) to remove used toilet rolls from a soiled toilet full of excreta without giving her any hand gloves. There were many days she was violent in my family house, beating up her house-girls sometimes with belts for offences ranging from disobedience to theft, and leaving them without food. She would use her husband to attack me at will whenever I opposed her bizarre lifestyle. Her thoughts were independent of common sense thereby disturbing the peace.

Nice combo? Food and shit. Baby #2's nappies/diapers are piling up. Where's ASEPA in all of this?

 This woman, Irene Chekwubechi (nee Edward) litters the compound where she has lived rent free since December, 2017 with diapers and kitchen refuse/waste. She sends her house-girls to dump things for her without checking where and how they did it. And she wouldn't keep the place tidy in the name of marriage, the girls leave our toilet and bathroom untidy and wash hers, which they don't use. Her advisers and admirers must be mad people. She and her maids/house-girls (12-17 years old) dump refuse at the back of the compound without care of its health hazards to people since her coming in 2017. Prior to that refuse dumped there would have fire set to it. The man I called father has retired to the village probably because he often scolded Irene's maids for their habitual littering. They wouldn't set fire to the heap of refuse in order to reduce it to a rubble and make it tidy. Instead they habitually poured waste water on it making it stink. They must enjoy the stench as the refuse heap is a few metres away from their window. I don't know why she would do all this mischief and call herself a returned missionary of her church. REven though I didn't live with them, returned missionaries of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints were humble citizens of Nigeria, not this one and a few of her ilk who are comparable to those women of questionable character. Who advises such devilish mental illness? She and her husband stopped our use of the family kitchen, built and furnished by his mother, starting with the wife of his younger brother who used to cook his meals before his own marriage, usurping property including a gas cylinder and the use of the whole kitchen infrastructure. My mother prepares her meals in the same room where her supposed daughter-in-law's two house-girls sleep even though she supports some of their activities till date.

 

My mother's vegetable garden and Chekwubechi's faeces dump

Chekwubechi doesn't give a care about her house-girls' welfare. Maybe they are her SLAVES. She uses her house-girls to look for trouble daily. I suspect that she or her house-girl(s) or husband still opens my padlocked bedroom in my absence. I moved rooms giving them additional space and the nuisance persisted. Last week, somebody left pee in one of my buckets behind closed doors. They don't allow their house-girls use of their own toilet and bathroom who do no chores for my mother and me. I have accused my mother of starting this quarrel as all entreaties to look into the woman's character while she was visiting before the marriage fell on deaf ears. 'Onye akporo akpo nri o ji elobi nkalari?' Does a visitor invited to a meal break her neck beads? It was only last week that my mother bathed her new baby girl born in September that she would let her children speak to her. I haven't gone to see their new baby girl and will not do so. I don't support a nuisance. 'Onye akporo akpo nri m, o si la okpu nri m ehila?' Does a guest say that my morsels are too big? A guest may leave if she has overstayed her comfort and welcome! I studied dispute resolution not exorcism nor psychiatry. Because of the police case, Chijioke refers to his mother and me as 'those people,' 'ndi ahu/ndi a', greets his parents 'Morning' while strangers and others get 'Good morning,' while a traitor is his wife and confidant. She has two children born to her in this current relationship, each named to imitate or irritate me. One is named Omari (a name I have no idea its meaning)and the other, the new one, I heard is called Briston. It's not public knowledge if she has other children from previous marriages or relationships or not. That's shrouded in secrecy, if existent.

Often, I have asked the house-girls to shift their laundry and not obstruct pedestrian movement into and out of the compound. But each time, it appeared that she mandated them to replace the clothes to cause trouble or please her husband. All she's awaiting is for her bouncer husband to pounce on anybody who challenged them or removed the clothes. Two weeks ago, her husband nearly hit my mother for challenging his using a bedroom, her cooking area, as a storage unit. I know that such behaviour is queer, so why is it being celebrated? For fertility, since they derided those whose marriage hasn't produced their own offspring but would cater for their children. It's unnatural for her to have no shame usurping great authority in a place that she didn't provide for herself nor for anybody else. Her behaviour must be sanctioned by her sect and own family. Am I living with the 'osu?' As such behavioural pattern is akin to the outcast people among the Igbo due to their criminal heritage. No freeborn Igbo is so uncouth, lawless and recalcitrant. Marriage is no excuse for being an outlaw. She came nearly like a runaway bride, a dependant or a child bride with no dowry, that is household property brought to a marriage. Dowty may be adjudged archaic but people cook meals, use water and the latrine. She used the family utensils until her husband bought her a set of cutlery, I guess for her tooth decay not to be contracted. She still uses my mother's chinaware. Shame on her. She wants the rights of an adult but has the dependence of a baby. She would do no chores customary with Igbo or Ngwa women. Even Umuara does a customary 'ole ala' a seasonal clean-up exercise, where she does only the job of commander-in-chief, detailing her house girls to do the chores of house care, pregnant or not. The commandant of Umuara. She chose to live in a rural town, does no farming nor gardening, gets water from the compound through borehole at no expense to her, has no salaried job, except cooking their meals and depends totally on the family's resources. Even if she brings in money, does she do so through legitimate means? What does she do for a living? Bet9ja?

 

In June (2020), I went to the Abayi police station to report an assault on me by my mother's son Chekwubechi's husband, Chijioke. Instead, the police handed the case to a policewoman member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints one Ruth Nwulu, who may have aided manipulations of the case, subverting justice thus. Policewoman Ruth Nwulu was close to the DCO of the police station and a member of the assaulter's church. I have no confidence in the Nigeria Police Force as they turn cases into sermons. I was called nuts and they brought SARS to arrest me to the Central Police State in Aba for no known offence except that the case in court at Abayi. I abandoned the case because it became a show possibly exhibiting the sect's power and infiltration. The troublemaker was invited to the police station but her husband refused her an appearance probably advised by his mother-in-law. There's no place where there are sane people in Abia State. These pictures were taken on Sunday, Novemeber 8, 2020. It was in the path I swept nearly daily.

Madam Chekwubechi Irene (the names she calls herself) doesn't sweep the compound, a trait unknown to Igbo women who are married to Ngwa men. Most married women in Ngwa land sweep their family compound, where they are married. Not she who came like a guest and wants to usurp the whole village. My family identifies as Ngwa and are native of Isiala Ngwa South local government. She provides nothing for herself, is totally dependent on this family and its relationships yet treats everybody as trash. I read the handwriting on the wall and whoever is drumming her song is ecstatic judging from her incessant insults. I wonder what to do with a nuisance in my compound who kept her house-girls/maids away from school at will. I suspect that she's used to spy on me and whoever kept her here is funding her trouble making. 

Some of Nnenna's property, which she left behind after the move (minus the motor bike and generator) left outside my window. The generator would be very noisy at no pollution to Chijioke and his spouse

 Who's paying for her nuisance value? Who's using her? Shameless liars. Criminal alibi. Many people come to mind. Firstly, wannabe contacts from my alma mater - Ovom Girls' High School, the University of Ibadan, and UMass Boston, not so much UT Dallas. Secondly, I suspect that three wayward women from my National Youth Service Corps (NYSC) at Ibadan and their useless boyfriends are her pillars of support. Those women were harlots who have succeeded  in destroying Nigeria because they got their patrons to do their bidding that year. They were spies and used people even abroad to spy on me. Those women all did crime but nobody had eyes for them, where is the justice in Nigeria? All were impostors and mentally ill at Ile Igbon, unknown to me. Who keeps close tabs on NYSC mates fifteen years after for lack of sexual contact with a fellow woman and no pact if, at all sane? I have NEVER practised lesbianism not even in Boston and won't change. I don't know where those mice are resident now. No thanks to cell phones stalking has become a fundamental human right of many a sick call girl and prostitute. Save our souls. Lol. How would peace and development thrive in a place inhabited by such a culture of nuisance? Mormons would say that 'wickedness never was happiness' but they make great sport of their many wicked initiatives nowadays. God forbid long suffering. Yet, this is the family that would run off to Kalunta Memorial Psychiatric Hospital, Aba and never check themselves in as the patients. Ignorant beasts.