urisbest: My dear, nwanne. How are u?
dangozphil: Nwanne,
dangozphil: How you dey now?
urisbest: I dey fine. My dear how far with your late sister in law?
dangozphil: how levels now?
dangozphil: The burial would take place on the 21st
dangozphil: ie next week Friday
urisbest: May her soul rest in peace. I was wondering whether you have applied to the school in the Netherlands.
dangozphil: i would be traveling day after tomorrow
dangozphil: not really
dangozphil: i've not really had time
urisbest: Safe trip my friend. My cousin's wife lost her brother whom she calls her "all and all."
dangozphil: i spend better part of my time at Lagos now
urisbest: He just had a baby a month ago. He was married for just two years.
dangozphil: eh yaaa!
dangozphil: oh! no!
dangozphil: it's a very sad one
dangozphil: so the girl is now a widow?
dangozphil: was he sick?
urisbest: yes, o . he was just sick for a few weeks
urisbest: his sister called him the day Obama won the election. and he told her that he was sick. he died that saturday
urisbest: it's really sad. The sister is devastated. And the poor girl is a widow at twenty.
dangozphil: twenty?????
dangozphil: so sad
urisbest: yes, she was married at twenty. just out of high school.
dangozphil: waoh!
dangozphil: what's the sex of the baby?
urisbest: no, she was married at eighteen, she's twenty now. but the girl and her mother who came for "omugwu" are allegedly hiding stuff like his shares (stock). She has refused to return to the village
dangozphil: WHAAAAAT?
dangozphil: where are they from?
urisbest: they are from our place. i know that the girl is an ngwa girl reommended by the late man's oldest sister.
dangozphil: my place? as in Nsulu?
urisbest: i mean our place as ngwaland.
dangozphil: lolll
dangozphil: i don't understand why a young girl like that should be more concerned about wealth
dangozphil: than the loss of a husband
dangozphil: are you sure he did not eat anything?
urisbest: she and her mother were not seeing eye to eye before her husband died. now they are 5 and 6.
dangozphil: it's suspicious
dangozphil: sometimes, love portion does opposite what they think
urisbest: who knows. over here, they would perform an autopsy. but no one wants to spend that kind of money
dangozphil: i mean the opposite, and most times, it kills
dangozphil: you see, autopsy does not really reveal the exact thing
dangozphil: it could tell you it's food poisoning
dangozphil: there's a lot to food poisoning
urisbest: i see what you mean. since he travelled to china for business, they could attribute it to what he might have eaten over there.
dangozphil: oh! he just came back from china?
urisbest: yes, he was a businessman and travelled to china often.
dangozphil: what i think is that they should pet her and get the documents from her
dangozphil: does the late guy have a younger brother?
urisbest: No, why?
dangozphil: nooo, it's not what you think. i'm not thinking of levirate
dangozphil: i don't believe in that
dangozphil: i just think it's only the late guy's younger brother who can make trouble over his late brother's property
dangozphil: the women wouldn't want to come and fight over all that
urisbest: oh, i see what you mean.
dangozphil: and if she doesn't want to release anything, they should leave her
dangozphil: she will suffer
dangozphil: it happened to mu mum's immediate younger brother
urisbest: she has two little children.
dangozphil: he died in 1986 and until his death, he worked with Union bank
dangozphil: and he had 3 little kids
dangozphil: so, Union bank paid a certain amount to the wife
dangozphil: she did not disclose the amount to anybody
dangozphil: rather she kept everybody away
dangozphil: and started insulting everybody
dangozphil: so, they left him
dangozphil: i mean her
dangozphil: people who wanted to help in paying the children's school fees were scared away
dangozphil: she did not bother about her husban's family
dangozphil: till when the money got finished
dangozphil: she started begging everybody for forgiveness
dangozphil: i'm sure this girl is not educated
dangozphil: what is the burial arangement like?
urisbest: they have not made any plans yet.
dangozphil: and where is their village?
urisbest: amaokwe in isiala ngwa south.
dangozphil: ok
dangozphil: may his soul rest in peace
dangozphil: and may God grant his family members the fortitude to bear up
dangozphil: but all i know is that the wife will suffer
urisbest: i will leave to God. Millions can disappear. She may think 5 million is a lot of money but it will get finished someday.
dangozphil: because every uncharitable act is a boomerang thing
urisbest: so true, nwanne.
dangozphil: she has brothers, someone will do it to her brothers
dangozphil: pls, take heart
urisbest: i don't know oo. i think the girl is allowing her mother to deceive her. Thank you.
dangozphil: and also calm your uncle's wife
dangozphil: let her take heart
urisbest: the guy i told you is interested in me also his father a week ago. He was ver.y sick
urisbest: Last week was a razy one for me
urisbest: i meant lost his father.
dangozphil: is it the Mbaise guy?
dangozphil: or the Ukaibe guy?
urisbest: no, the mbaise guy is a closed chapter. it is the obingwa guy.
dangozphil: really
urisbest: i haven't met the ukaibe guy yet.
dangozphil: eh yaa
dangozphil: so sorry
dangozphil: that means he would be coming home for the funeral
dangozphil: is the dad really old?
urisbest: yes. as the first son. yes he was 75, not really old but old enough.
dangozphil: noooooooo
dangozphil: 75 is not old ooo
dangozphil: my dad is 74
dangozphil: and i can't afford to lose him now
urisbest: okay, but they bible said that man is expected to die at 70.
dangozphil: he is still very active
dangozphil: yeah
dangozphil: but 70 is too soon
dangozphil: anyway
urisbest: of course, he eats fresh farm produce. they keeps people healthy. it also depends on how he lives his life
dangozphil: does he have grand children?
dangozphil: i mean the guy's dad
urisbest: yes, from his daughter. my dear i just have this little problem with my guy. he wants us to marry on his birthday which is next year and i want it done this year.
dangozphil: when is his b'day?
dangozphil: what month?
urisbest: well that was before his father's death. Now we just argue a lot.
urisbest: March.
dangozphil: my Dear Girl, march is not too far
dangozphil: we are almost in December
dangozphil: it's about 4 months from now
urisbest: yes, but that's my problem, i just don't understand the wed on birthday thing.
dangozphil: ok
dangozphil: how old is he going to be?
urisbest: he wants to commemorate (i don't know the spelling), his fortieth birthday. you see, i'm still interested in oldr men.
dangozphil: 40 is not tto old my dear
dangozphil: was he married before?
dangozphil: you are 28 now
urisbest: no. his father had ten children and retired from working with the bank the same year his first son (my boyfriend) got admitted into Calabar. So, my guy has been busy putting his siblings through school.
dangozphil: oh he's a nice guy then
dangozphil: he's a father to his siblings
urisbest: I meant Unical. His parents became very sick. although he has a sister who lives in the US, he has been carrying most of the responsibilty because she has her own family.
dangozphil: and i know they'd have much respect for him
dangozphil: oh yeah
urisbest: i think they do/
dangozphil: sure, they should
urisbest: but i also think he doesn't want them to become self-reliant. i suggested that perhaps the siblings could start a business together so they won't always ask him for money andhe was a little mad at me for suggesting that
dangozphil: you see
dangozphil: it was one of the problems i had with Peter
dangozphil: pls, don't suggest anything concerning his family being less dependent o n him
dangozphil: since you know he doesn't like it
urisbest: i have stopped bothering him on that but won't it be a source of conflict in the future?
dangozphil: no my dear
urisbest: i don't want to be the wicked brother's wife who won't let their brother's wealth get to them.
dangozphil: by the time he starts having children, he would know he has to take care of them (his children)
urisbest: if experience with my father is anything to go by, i doubt that having children will make him change at all.
dangozphil: p-l-e-a-s-e Ijeoma
dangozphil: don't think about your dad in this situation
dangozphil: i think his is a spiritual thing
urisbest: anyway, i don't know what's going to happen. most of the time i don't really want to marry.
dangozphil: STOP THAT!!!!!!
dangozphil: you have to start rejecting anything that will put such thing in your mind
dangozphil: just pray and believe that yours will work out fine
dangozphil: You are Ijeoma
dangozphil: and your luck/star is different from that of your mum and that of any other person
dangozphil: you are going to make it
dangozphil: don't discourage yourself before you start
dangozphil: pls
dangozphil: pray that you must enjoy your marriage
dangozphil: and have faith
urisbest: thanks a lot. i have just been wondering what's wrong with me. whenever, my relationship almost matures something would destroy it. it is well. Thanks for the advice.
dangozphil: you are welcome by sister
urisbest: i need to leave now. it was fun chatting with you.
dangozphil: same here my dear
urisbest: please keep me posted about the school stuff and any good(and not so good) news in your great life.
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